Last Monday, Eric & I were talking over breakfast. We were discussing my lack of discipline. Why don't I do the things that I say that I want to do? When I look back on my weeks, I often find that I haven't done the things that really mattered to me, but I filled my time up with stuff that didn't matter in the end.
I spend a lot of time playing computer games. I delight in the way that they give me a to succeed in something. They give me something quick that I can accomplish, and yet they also give me long term goals that I can spend hours or even days on. I have a lot more hope of getting something done there than I do in real life. Yet the things there don't really matter.
So the question becomes, why do I keep choosing games over everything else?
It's not like I don't make other choices, sometimes. It seems like I live in the demand of the moment. When I have a chance for relationship with someone, I will quite willingly abandon everything else to spend hours and hours with them. Yet if there isn't somebody knocking on my door, I will play computer games.
People ask many things of me. When they ask, I immediately want to serve them and so I tell them that I want to do it. But if they aren't right in front of me, their requests suddenly don't seem very important (or at least, very immediate). So I play computer games instead, telling myself that I will help them later.
Eric says, and he's probably right, that this means that I really don't care about people. I don't know what to do with that. My heart certainly doesn't feel like that's true. Anytime that I look at my heart or my choices, I don't think that I don't care. It seems more like my urge to play computer games just gets in the way, making it impossible to discipline myself. I guess, in time, that God will deal with the lack of truly caring for others. But for now there's something more pressing.
I am addicted to computer games. Computer programming seems to also have the same power, since it gives me much the same benefit. At least at the surface level, the reason why I don't discipline myself is because I can't break free of that addiction.
Eric had a simple answer to this. When other people have struggled with addictions to computer games, they have simply given them all away. I've tried going cold turkey for a while - I even was off them for a month once - and yet my addiction comes right back as soon as it's "legal." Eric was adamant that I had to give them all away.
So, when I got home from work that night, Emily & I went through the boxes and found all of my old computer games. I've been playing them for 10 years or more, and have amassed quite a collection. Each one held a certain special memory for me, and Emily sat with me as I recounted to her what each one meant to me.
The next evening, we went to Bookman's to sell them. There were probably 40 or 50 games ther, all in great condition, many with all the manuals and packaging. I've seen them sell games like this for $5 a piece, so I was expecting to get at least $40 or $50 for whole set.
Bookman's gave me $2. $2 for 10 years of my life.
Actually, the only wanted 2 of the games...the rest were so old that they didn't want them at all. So I sold them, and the next morning gave the rest to the Salvation Army.
I'm sure that God has something to teach me through the experience at Bookman's, though I'm not really sure what it is yet. Something about totally giving away the old things that I valued and getting nothing back. I don't know exactly, but here's where I am a week later:
It's hard not having games or programming to go to. It means that I have to find something else to do with my time (like writing this blog, or working on the Buckshot Blu website). But what's worse is that I'm being forced to discipline my brain. I'm finding now is that I my mind goes to programming and computer games even more often than my body does. But if I'm trying to break myself of the addiction to them, then spending all my free brain time thinking about them is pretty self-defeating. Anyhow, since I won't be able to go play games or write programs, I don't feel like there's any point.
So now I'm having to find other things to think about. Surprise! I'm spending more time in prayer, more time reading the Bible, and more time thinking about how to love people intentionally.
Perhaps someday I'll be able to go back to those other things in a healthy waY, but Eric has told me not to wait for that or expect it; perhaps I won't ever be able to go back. Many alcoholics can never go back to alcohol; perhaps I will never return to computer games. In the meantime, I have more time to do whatever God has called me to do.
It's weird, though. You'd think that in the past week I would have had a lot of time to accomplish things that I've been meaning to do. The irony is that I haven't. Even today, I was exhausted all day and really felt like I should rest in the evening, but I really need to go get things (like buckshotblu.villagersonline.com) done. Oh well, we'll see what happens. |