Hey, Rod,
I think that people leap way to quickly to "I know what you're feeling", and so I hesitate to say it that way, but I can tell you that Lindi and I have struggled with similar issues, not just due to her illness, but due to various times where we have been forced to "step out of the game" because of finances, broken relationships, or other issues.
I know that Lindi has struggled a lot with self worth over the years, since she has been unable to work. When I tell people, "Lindi can't really do house work", she gets afraid that they will think that she does nothing at all at home... which is not true at all. She works hard to do housework, but there are a few normal tasks that she is completely unable to do, and many others that she is normally in too much pain or too tired due to her illness to do. She struggles with the same things that you mentioned. Both the Lord and I have had to continually remind her that her value is not in what she does (for me or for anyone else), but in her heart and soul. She constantly enriches my life with her thoughts, her reading and teaching in our home, and her unique and loving perspective on life, love, theology, and other topics. That is her value to me.
Likewise, I have struggled at times when I was prevented from contributing to others because of my own physical handicaps (back, knees, hips, and others), or because a pastor or other leader told me and others that I had nothing valuable to contribute, or because I did not have a job where I could earn money for my family, and contribute to someone with my skills, abilities, and gifts.
In response to your post, I can only echo what you yourself said. He who would cause you to believe that you have no value during this time of pain and sickness is indeed a Liar. I know you have personally ministered to both of us many critical times during the last couple of years, but your True Value to us (and I expect to the rest of the Village), is just your presence, just being you, just demonstrating the unique portion of the image of God that He put in you.
Of course, we appreciate the many times where you have "done" something for us. I tried to enumerate these personally, and gave up after I lost count. However, your value, like all of ours, is not "what you do", but "who you are".
In the same way, it is easy for us to love and appreciate God for what he does. Indeed, that is a good thing. But, we do not Love Him because of what he does, but because of who He is. As someone wiser than I has stated, "Lord, I want to seek your face, not your hands".
I am sure you know that our sorrow is great that we are not going to be able to stay in Tucson and "be" at the village. While we will always be a part of this community, it is not practical for us to make it our church home from 125 miles away. However, we hope to be down often, and continually thank God for the Village family and the relationships we have forged here. We hope and plan to be "friends of the Village" even as we live in Phoenix.
And you can count on us to pray for you as you requested.
In love and in Him,
Larry |