Well, I thought I would offer some thoughts from the mind of a person struggling with the idea of sending letters to my friends and family asking for funds. Jeff and I feel very uncomfortable when we receive these types of requests from people who have not talked to us about it first.
As Jeff and I have talked over our hesitations I find that we are:
not wanting to put people on the spot and make them wonder if they should send a donation in order to honor the relationship...
not wanting to send requests for money to family members who have purposefully turned away from Christianity...
not wanting to make people feel that we have been content to stay relatively "out of touch" until we want money from them...
not wanting to be just another solicitor trying to get to their money before someone else does....
not wanting to be asking for money from people attending other churches that we have been snobby about in the past when we thought that we were so special and they needed to get with the program.....
Basically, we don't want to give any names to the LIST at all. But on the other hand, we don't want to just be a burden on the Village and not participate. And asking for money is a sure fire way to get it so it's not a bad idea. All the other possibilities (with the exception of the fund-raising letter to businesses) require a lot of labor for small amounts of income.
I did pursue the ideas from my particular group. I asked my dad about asking for money at his church and he said that his church is just not giving outside of their own ministries right now. They are struggling financially and have cut back on their outside giving in order to focus on their own things. This is a very big church with lots and lots of members with income. Well, I guess that idea isn't going to fly for me....
So back to the LIST. As we heard more and more about the LIST I began to feel that not giving any names at all was going to send a particular message. You can't just abstain. You either send in names or you are refusing to pull your own weight and are thereby communicating that you don't really care about the group.
I am not a lazy, uncaring person. But I won't make the choice to agree to something just because its makes me look like one. No matter how much I HATE being misunderstood.
But I don't have any better ideas for fund-raising that I'm willing to work on. So I asked God to help. I asked him to help me see if there was any way to send fund-raising letters to people without being disrespectful to family and friends.
He sent me a friend with a pep talk and some ideas for boundaries that we can use to decide who gets a letter. So here are the things that are making this easier for me:
1. On hearing that we wanted to send out fund-raising letters and my hesitations, my friend said that she understood but it wasn't as bad as I thought. People know Jeff and me and know that we don't just make a habit of using people.
Also, she said, we all want to know about your opportunity to get the big money "Its all for the Kingdom, isn't it?" I realized as she said that, that asking for money is in some ways honoring friends from other churches by throwing our lot in with theirs and assuming that we are all headed for the same goal. Humbling ourselves to ask fellow Christians for money is honoring to the body of Christ.
2. Some practical boundaries that work for Jeff and me and our particular set of friends and family:
a. If we haven't connected with them in the last
year then they don't get a letter.
b. We want to see the letter first and then decide who should get it. We'd like to see minimal "sales" talk and lots of description of who we are as well as a big feature about our unique opportunity through an anonymous donor.
c. We would like to hand deliver (Trizia's idea) some of the letters to neighbors so that we can talk to them as we give them the letter.
d. We would like to give a list of names as a commitment but not give addresses. We will mail them ourselves. This is not because we think that the Village would do anything further with the addresses but rather to make us feel that we are still the ones responsible for doing the asking.
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